Character Matters Most

Quote on Character

We do not see things as they are, we see them as we are.

Anaïs Nin


A Recipe for Character

There are many skills, talents, and areas of expertise that any one human can have. We are each a relatively diverse collection of these characteristics. The one quality that resides at the core of who we are and what we do is Character. The Oxford Dictionary defines it as, “the mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual.” It is, in other words, the broth that makes up the soup of who we are.

Yes, you are soup.

Soup is only as good as its broth. Add carrots, potatoes, onions, mushrooms, lemongrass, shallots, broccoli, or peas. All of the tasty flavors of these ingredients will never make up for a unpleasant, poorly balanced, inadequate broth. In fact, if the broth is good, it can stand alone. Our character is like that.

“So many people just don’t know how great they really are. They come to us all vogue on the outside and vague on the inside.”

Mary Kay Ash

Inside & Out

We are encouraged in our society to gather skills, degrees, accreditations, and titles in order to be recognized as being of value. These accoutrements are very important to finding a fulfilling, successful place in life. They do not, however, replace the that singular, compound, intangible core that we think of as character. Too often, we mistake being busy with building character, if we think about it at all. Developing character takes thought, time, and intention.

The ability to allow life to affect you cultivates character. It’s one of the strengths of the feminine principle, and historically, hasn’t been held high in esteem in the world of business, science, or education. “Toughen up,” is the old standard exhortation for building character. You wouldn’t do that to your broth. The best broth is nourished and nuanced. It’s been treated with patience and understanding. So too, treat your character. Accept its unfolding, its ability to be affected, and its quiet, profound guidance.




ps – sometimes we feel that there is a single event that shapes us, others may see a gradual process taking place – which is it for you?


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